Being a ‘workaholic’ came up in discussion recently and I found it very interesting to hear the different perspectives people held. Some thought workaholics were really super-employees. Others thought them to be mentally ill. I actually believe it’s more of a symptom than a title.
Defining the term workaholic is not easy (as there is not a clinical definition), but the two common themes seem to be:
- Working many hours
- Inability to detach from work
Growing up in a Midwest, blue collar family, having a strong work ethic was rewarded and praised. I used to think being a workaholic was a trait of a hard worker. However, taken too far this value can cause a host of problems in an employee’s life. Pushing yourself for extended periods of time can cause wear on the senses, burnout, anxiety or depression.
The best perspective I have ever heard about workaholics comes from Dan Millman in his book, No Ordinary Moments. He portrays tension as a situation of having excess energy and behaviors like over eating, over training, and over working act as ‘gateways of release.’ For example, under stress we may want to burn off excess energy through a workout and that would be healthy. But working every body part every day for three months is over training, and you actually lose performance by breaking the body down faster than it can build up. Some people may find themselves unconsciously eating throughout the day, even though they are not hungry. This over eating can provide a soothing effect on the body but it can become an addictive release. Millman argues that these are ‘gateways of release’ and indicators rather than root causes.
The hard thing about over working is that hard work is considered a virtue and a positive trait. Sometimes projects require additional effort for completion and long hours are sometimes necessary. Small business owners often are required to wear many hats and perform many tasks that regular employees wouldn’t need to. So how much is too much?
According to a 2014 Gallup survey the average work week is 47 hours. If you occasionally need to do an extra hour to wrap up a project then it can push the average higher. If event planning is part of what you do then the ‘week of’ can be incredibly demanding. And don’t even get me started on live theatre and tech week…
Shutting down after a long stretch of extended effort is required. If taking a vacation includes bringing the laptop, working on reports, and answering emails while on the beach then there is likely some internal work to be done. Excess tension is likely a motivator, making detaching a challenge.
In college I spent one semester weight training in the gym, every day. I’d work every body part, multiple exercises and I did that for 3 months. I learned what over training was and how physical performance degrades when the body doesn’t get adequate time to recover. When I was a store manager I took on a project that demanded an extra 20-30 hours per week. While it managed to add 6 figures in sales in a 10 day period I wound up learning what over work was. I learned what happened when I didn’t detach from my phone or take a vacation after that well-earned rest. Burnout and reduced ability are tough experiences.
The most important lessons learned from these experiences included:
- Rest is needed to build back up to a level where performance can peak again
- Time to detach is required, not optional
- Excess energy finds a release, in one form or another
Not minding these limits will lead to burnout, anxiety, depression or some other unpleasant consequence. It’s time we stop rewarding unhealthy attitudes because it’s bad for the health of our workforce and bad for business to operate at reduced capacity. Nobody wins in the long run. Change your mind, change your reality.
great article Jason!
I really liked this article Jason. I am a recovering workaholic and it has taken me many years to realize that salvation did not come from working crazy hours and spreading myself too thin. Energy will always need to find a way out, that is so true. I feel that the myth of working hard is slowly losing ground and that new – and better – ways of thinking about work are emerging: result-oriented rather than counting working hours, remote rather than in the office all the time, flexible rather than on schedule… smart instead of hard.
I’ve been a recovering workaholic for a number of years and I agree with what you have shared. (I’m from the Midwest as well.) Being able to shut down and recharge is the best thing I ever did for my life and my business.
It’s critical to understand there is a difference between working all of the time and actually being productive enough that you don’t have to work all of the time.
Another reason people fall into the workaholic trap is because of a need to prove one’s worth. I have seen this repeatedly with my business clients. Practicing self-love and healthy boundary setting is the first step when that is happening.
I am very sensitive to this issue as both in my previous career and my most recent “job” my time was not my own. I am still finding a balance between the solopreneur hustle and taking time for myself. Great post!
Ugh. I needed to hear this. Thank you! (as I check up on blogs while watching the VMAs on a Sunday Night…)